Ready to give up? Read this.


Ever have a day and or week that knocks you flat on your face? I’m not talking about a day where you’re able to bounce back right away. It’s the day that makes you question whether or not you will be able to get up again. I recently had one of those weeks and let me tell you it was a doozy. I remember standing in an elevator and not even being able to press the buttons. Everything was in slow motion and I felt like I was having an out-of-body experience. I had one singular thought throughout this entire experience: “what do I do next?”


Knowing that this thought was not going to go away, I decided that I needed to do something. Here is what my internal monologue looked like:

What do I do next?

First step, Ryan, get out of the elevator. Press the button.

What do I do next?

The elevator doors opened – I need to exit the elevator.

What do I do next?

Get to my car and drive home.

What do I do next?

You’re home, Ryan, time to make some decisions.


I sat on my couch trying to muster up the will to lift weights, to make dinner, to do anything. As I sat on my couch feeling like I had failed everyone, I noticed something. A book I had been reading by Angela Duckworth entitled Grit. It is a book I was inspired to read because it talks about the difference between talent and tenacity. Basically, not giving up is more important than how good you are at any given skill.

I decided to tear into this book for an hour. After that, I knew what my next move would be: I would not give up. If anything, I would dig in. Here’s what I knew: that week was tough, but I was tougher.


You are not a tree, you can move at any time. AKA, if you do not like a situation, you can leave at anytime. Here’s the thing, the biggest trees are the ones that have been willing to grow their roots the longest.

You deserve to be happy and you deserve to feel fulfilled. Sometimes that means you need to whether the storm. What is more rewarding, succeeding at a bunch of small things with no challenges or tackling larger problems that are touch and go, but end up being valuable in the end? You need to be challenged, you need to be knocked down so you know you can stand back up. Whatever it is you are going through, you can handle it.


Everyone needs help and it takes strength to be able to ask for it.

If you need it, I can help. If you have a support network, use them. Above all else…



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